DUKES FANS:
My Favorite Traveling Companion……
I don’t
know exactly how long I have been writing and sending out these Dukes
newsletters/blogs- I think I started in 2008 or 2007. It is something that I
enjoy doing, and I am glad that so many of you enjoy my musings and
experiences. It is something that is important to who I am. The performer in me
likes having an audience and putting out good energy, and the educator in me
loves sharing ideas, experiences and more with people. It is just who I am, and
I am grateful that so many of you let me into your inbox on a regular basis. I
sincerely thank you for that.
If you have
been reading these missives for a while you know that one thing John
Colgan-Davis loves is traveling and seeing new things. You have read, for
example, about birding trips to Magee Marsh in Ohio, Cape May, NJ, Heinz
Wildlife Refuge in Philly and more. You have followed along on many of the
camping trips to Wellsley Island, the Finger Lakes, Golden Hill State Park, and
Lake George all in NY. I told you about finding wonderful wildlife refuges in
Maryland, museums and gardens in Orlando and Key West; night skies, elk and
seeing the Perseid Meteor Shower on a deck next to a mountain in New Mexico.
Lotus blossoms, monuments, and museums in Washington, DC. Times spent at Ivylea
Provincial Park, the Grand Canyon, and in the wonderful cities of Kingston in
Ontario and Chestertown in Maryland. I have brought you with me to small towns,
hills, music festivals, campsites, lakes, and more.
Through
all of these travels I have been with my favorite travel buddy and friend, my
wife, Penny Colgan-Davis. Some of you have met her at gigs and some of you knew
her from some of her many other activities and involvements; she was a very
busy woman and involved in many things. But most of you do not know her except
through these missives and my telling of our travels. I am sad to say that I
have lost my partner, my best friend and the greatest travel buddy ever. Penny
passed away Tuesday morning at about 5:30 AM at our home in Mt. Airy. She had
been ill for a while, battling melanoma since November of last year. She died
peacefully and lovingly with my son and myself there with her. It was a sad but
lovely passing. We were fortunate to be with her though the whole illness, and
it was a fitting end.
Penny and I
were married for nearly 38 years, and we traveled together and birded together
almost from the beginning. We would go to Tinicum (now called Heinz Refuge),
down to Brigantine Wildlife Center, (now called Forsythe), Cape May, NJ, and
places in Delaware. We had a camping honeymoon through upstate NY, Maine, and
Canada. And as a young family we camped in the Poconos and spent several years at
Lost River State park, a lovely spot in West Virginia. Penny herself was a
great traveler long before she met me. She and her sisters had been to Ireland,
the Netherlands, and England, so she was ready to go places. And like me, she
loved to not just go to a place but to explore in and around it. We would camp
in a spot and bird and hike the trails there. But we would also spend times in
nearby towns and cities, eat at diners where the locals ate, visit cemeteries,
gardens and historical sites and visit the libraries. She got me into gardening
and trees and plants, and we could spend hours at an arboretum, nursery or public garden. I still remember going to the National Botanical Gardens, Kenilworth
Park, and the National Arboretum in DC. several times with her. I will miss
traveling and exploring and having funny and sometimes scary adventures with
her. And I am so grateful for all of the things we saw that took our breath
away and will stay with me forever. Seeing thousands of monarch butterflies and
hundreds of sunflowers on Amherst Island in Ontario; looking down from above
the clouds and seeing circling vultures after hiking up Craney Crow in West Virginia;
watching the sun play off a waterfall with circling cedar waxwings on Cape
Breton in Canada; standing on a bluff in the Grand Canyon and looking around at
so many different shades of brown and red, unreal clear blue skies, and so many
differently shaped rocks. And much, much, much more.
So there is
a hell of a lot of pain, a lot of loss and some big hurt going on right now. I
do not know when and how the tears are going to come; they just do. And I do
not know how long they will last each time they come. My breath gets short,
some anger comes out, and I lose it for a while. And all of our family and good
friends are also feeling that pain, going through this along with my son and
myself. This grief thing is so much more than just a solo enterprise, and I am
so glad for that. And at the same time, there are the memories, the images, and the
smiles brought about by looking at pictures and maps and brochures and
remembering and talking with people about our many wonderful travels. They are
just as important as the pain, and just as real. And they are treasures. My mom
used to say that when people felt and expressed great pain and hurt and cried
their eyes out, there was also joy hidden in there. For to be felt that deeply,
the love and loss had to be real and truly, deeply felt. To have known and
experienced a love that deep and real was truly a great blessing in my life.
Thank you, Penny. Thanks so much. And today, it feels like camping weather.